In Sickness and In Health

In Sickness and In Health

After an evening of intense fellowship with my husband, or in other words sharing of harsh words, he finally looked at me and asked,

“Why do you stay married to a man who is sick and is only going to get worse?” In that moment I could only repeat the question back to him. “Why does anyone stay married to a person with a chronic illness?”

Silence fell in the kitchen. What more could be said? The quick answer could be because I love you, but sometimes you reach a point when the quick easy answer won’t communicate the deepness that is needed. When I my head collapsed on my pillow that night I cried out to God, I need your help in answering this question. I need you to reveal to me how I can address the fears of both of our hearts. How do I have a godly marriage through this situation?

Read more of my quest post on AngelPenn.com

She has organized an amazing series of marriage posts on this Journey of I Do.

At the end of this journey I want to be able to praise Him for walking me through this hard situation. I don’t want to get lost in the “why did this happen” I want to be able to glorify His name.

Self Esteem Song

Self Esteem by A. Lane

Yes, my son is still writing songs. Did you catch his first song “All I Want For Christmas is a Friend”, he really touched my heart and the song opened up a great dialogue between us. I told him every month he could publish a song here on my blog.

I hope they can provide a chance to share with your kids and maybe start some discussions about things your kids are experiencing.

Self Esteem

Verse 1
Uh man when I was younger I didn’t think much of myself.
Stuck my self-esteem right on the shelf.
I always beat myself up without ever letting up.
I told myself I would amount to nothing.
That I would never amount to something.
I believed I was the worst man alive.
I don’t know how I survived.
I believed I was dumb and nothing but a bum.
I foolishly thought I was being humble.
Instead it just caused me to stumble.
But by God’s grace I got through.
Now I want to help you.
Chorus:
Maybe you’re just like me and you feel the same.
Always giving yourself the blame.
But think of The Lord who gave you your name.
What would he say? Would he agree?
Verse 2
I know what He would say.
Go take a look in his book.
In Isaiah 64:8 it says God made you.
There’s your first clue.
He made you just how he wanted you to be.
Don’t you see?
Now picture someone you love calling themselves stupid, silly, and shameful.
How would you feel if you could see that?
Well that’s how God feels when you say that.
It makes his heart ache.
Every time you say you are a mistake.
So please stop tearing yourself down.
Which causes God to frown.
Chorus:
Maybe you’re just like me and you feel the same.
Always giving yourself the blame.
But think of The Lord who gave you your name.
What would he say? Would He agree?

Verse 3
Think about that for a minute.
Then next time you want to tear yourself down.
Please shutdown that voice that wants you to.
You’re special, spectacular, and sufficient.
Don’t listen to anything that says different.
You’re not perfect but you’re not the worst either.
Please tell someone who is wise what you’re going through.
They’ll know how to help and what to do.
You don’t have to do this on your own.
You can’t do everything alone.
Chorus:
Maybe you’re just like me and you feel the same.
Always giving yourself the blame.
Think of The Lord who gave you your name.
What would he say? Would he agree?

Leave a comment! My son loves getting feedback. 

Winter Blessings to Battle Winter Blues

Winter Blessings to Battle Winter Blues

A friend once told me to write about situations I have already experienced because your perspective is different from when you are currently dealing with situations. I guess it is the basis for that hindsight is 20/20 scenario.

Yet I am writing this post huddled under my electric blanket while temps are below zero outside. With my thyroid acting up resulting in what I refer to as my thermostat is broken; my feet may never warm up until Spring. I have zero desire for them to touch the cold floor and actually set about accomplishing today’s activities.

How can I offer great ideas to battle winter blues when my toes are the same shade? So I have scratched any thoughts of writing some top 10 list of things to do to battle the winter blues.

What I can offer is a rowdy chant of “you are not alone in the struggle.” 

Now I am going to hope one of my children will bring my a nice big cup of coffee and by the time I get to the bottom of the cup I may have found the desire to get on with the day.

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Laughter is my Word for 2018!

My word for 2018 is laughter!

And she laughs without fear of the future.  Proverbs 31:25

I have come to enjoy this ritual of selecting a word each year. If you select a word let me know in the comments.

In 2017 I chose Thank You instead of saying I am sorry.

In 2016 I chose Clean Slate, Clean Slate…fresh start…even if the last 20 years of writing goals has ended in failures…I can still try again.

In 2015 I chose Stones, so I could focus on God and not the giant attacks.

In 2014 my word was Squirrel, because I needed to focus and stop chasing unnecessary things.

Laughter!

Generally I love a good laugh and watching my friends laugh, this kind of laugh goes much deeper.

Instead of the panic that grips my heart when hard times strike, I want to laugh with the knowledge that my Jesus will not forsake me.

I want to take a deep exhale when troubles come, resting in that laugh.

Countless times my family has witnessed the amazing grace of being sustained through trials. I even keep pictures of when God provides in a concrete way, so that we can remember!

Often when I am overwhelmed by multiple trials that come all at once, I want to throw myself on the ground like a 2 year old screaming “why me”. Life shouldn’t be this difficult and I am positive we have been through enough.

Yet taking a step back and allowing a perspective change I feel I can focus on laughing without fear of the future.

So right now on every month in my planner I am going to write the word laughter. I want to be reminded to schedule some fun things with my friends and family. I want to make sure I take time to laugh. I pray this practice will help remind me.

Then when, not if, trouble finds me; I will be prepared for laughter. 

Happy New Year! 

Planning Moved Me From Surviving to Thriving

Planning Moved Me From

Surviving to Thriving!

Somewhere on this journey of being a homeschooling employed momma; I became in love with planners! Seriously about two years ago I fell in love with a Color Crush planner that allowed me to plan with stickers.

I am a functional sticker planner. Most of my stickers are for events I need to remember. Occasionally I throw a pretty sticker in the corner. Thank you Etsy for connecting with planning stickers!

Every Sunday night I pull out my box of stickers and plan my week. When will I squeeze in work, what will we have for dinner and who needs to be where.

It fills my creative need. It allows me time to see the big picture of my week and helps me catch those moments when I am double booked!

Then this year I bought a planner for the blog. Now I am busy attempting to plan things to keep me from posting on a whim.

When I was not looking a friend gave me Michael Hyatt’s planner to help me stay on top of my goals for work. Yes, that makes 3 planners in my life.

But bouncing around from work…to blog…to homeschool…to life…is a lot to keep track of.

While you might think I have lost my mind in planner world, I generally only use the last two planners once a month. But now I have a place to help me remember where I left off at in my thoughts.

New Year Planning Giveaway

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All I Want for Christmas is a Friend

My teenaged son has taken up songwriting this year. I shared a few lines in the Special Needs Homeschooling Facebook group, since I knew they would understand. The struggle of any mom wanting their kids to have friends is very real. You are not alone moms in wanting this for your kids.

Sharing in the group provided an eye opening chance for my son to realize that there are many other kids out there struggling to find a friend. This is an expression of that desire to have a friend, my son hates math but it worked for the song. He is currently putting music to these lyrics.

All I Want For Christmas is a Friend

Dear Santa this year I want something different, not a Mac I already have two of them. No, this year I want something different.

Chorus

All I want for Christmas is a friend, I’m super lonely and lowly my only friends are pretend.
All I want for Christmas is a friend, Oh Santa can’t you help me find a friend.

Verse 1

I wish I had a friend instead everybody calls me weird and I feel like I have disappeared.
My Mom is my only follower and I have 0 likes with many dislikes.
Nobody ever texts me and asks me to hang out.
Instead I’m always left-out.

Chorus

All I want for Christmas is a friend, I’m super lonely and lowly my only friends are pretend.
All I want for Christmas is a friend oh Santa please help me find a friend.

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Give-Away #1 for December

Give-Away #1!

There is joy in giving! I am blessed this year to be able to give back which after the past few years of needing help; really warms my heart.

Did you catch my last post on Beginning the Homeschooling Journey?

I am giving away 2 copies of How to Homeschool with Stunning Confidence, Contagious Joy, and Amazing Focus. 

For U.S residents only! Sorry I can not afford international shipping.

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Beginning the Homeschool Journey

Beginning the Homeschool Journey

I was talking with some veteran homeschool moms about the early days of our homeschooling journey. Since we began the homeschool journey before the internet and Pinterest my biggest struggle was how to actually homeschool.

Looking back, I remember talking with a friend who had been homeschooling for the past several years and begging her to just tell me what to buy to teach my kid. She was wise to not answer but did offer some vague guidance on how to make it work at my house. She knew then what I did not, that every homeschool looks different and every kid has different needs.

In my early days I was a solid oak tree. We had a schedule that we followed. Even to this day my kids stop at 3:00pm for a snack.

We had curriculum that we followed every word. It did not matter if my kids had mastered or needed more practice; we followed the pace of the curriculum because surely they knew better with how much work should be accomplished each day.

My mighty oak days did not offer much grace, my mighty oak days did not allow for flexibility. My mighty oak days fed my need to be in control of everything. My mighty oak days required much of my strength to keep things under control.

Then life brought me 4 children, 2 with health and learning issues, a sick husband, and the normal challenges of life and the time had come for me to either bend like a willow tree or break under the pressure.

Overtime I learned to bend, I let go of my expectations and I allowed grace to enter.

Beginning the homeschool journey I had no idea of how much it would change and challenge me. I thought it was all about providing my kids with an excellent education.

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The Why of Attending School

The Why of Attending School

Have you ever asked your kids why they are in school? My oldest two children can clearly articulate why they are attending school. They desire to learn the knowledge they need to enter into the job market to become a meteorologist and a pastry chef.

They have known since middle school what they wanted to study in high school and college. Next month my oldest graduates college with his degree in Geography with emphasis on GIS and Atmospheric Science! (Insert grad photo)

But just two months into this school year I realized my third child felt that school was an unnecessary event for his life. He did not have a why other then it was what his siblings had done.

Around the water cooler at the office we discussed the why. For some school was a place to be able to compare yourself to others and know how smart you were or weren’t. For others it was a place to just conquer test taking. Most of us enjoyed the social hangout.

I began having discussions with my son on how subjects and situations could provide opportunities to practice skills he would need in adulthood. That he had the safety net of still living at home while practicing these skills. This was his time to try new things and explore his gifts.

I assigned him the writing assignment of What is Your Why for attending School. Now this assignment came a few days after discovering he had been skipping his online classes and was ready to quit school.

Maybe discovering this why will renew in my son his comminement to finishing school. Maybe it will give him the courage to find his gifts and stop comparing himself to his older siblings.

Why my son was wrestling with his why for finishing high school my youngest found himself questioning his why for starting high school. Yes he said he goes to school because I make him.

Discussion of Why of Attending School

Tonight at the dinner table ask your kids why do they attend school. Depending on the ages of your kids you might get some really creative answers. You might also discover that it becomes an opportunity to explain the bigger picture of attending school.

Hopefully you don’t get caught in the how adults never use Algebra after high school but maybe you can talk thought that even if they hate math that does not mean everything about high school stinks.

Maybe you can open the lines of communication on what your kids find important to learn from their perspective. I know I failed a little with hearing what my son was struggling with and what he needed to succeed in high school.

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Black Friday Specials From My Favorites

Bright Ideas Press

This is a great time to start a folderbook or get a jump start on planning the next school year! 

This four day event begins 12:01 a.m. on Black Friday, November 24, 2017 and ends at 11:59 p.m. on Cyber Monday, November 27, 2017. (All times are EST.)

No coupon code will be needed for this sale, and other coupons can not be used in conjunction with this sale at Bright Ideas Press.

15% of all sales at Bright Ideas Press and The Academy from Black Friday through Cyber Monday 2017 will be donated to Compassion International.

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