All I Want for Christmas is a Friend

My teenaged son has taken up songwriting this year. I shared a few lines in the Special Needs Homeschooling Facebook group, since I knew they would understand. The struggle of any mom wanting their kids to have friends is very real. You are not alone moms in wanting this for your kids.

Sharing in the group provided an eye opening chance for my son to realize that there are many other kids out there struggling to find a friend. This is an expression of that desire to have a friend, my son hates math but it worked for the song. He is currently putting music to these lyrics.

All I Want For Christmas is a Friend

Dear Santa this year I want something different, not a Mac I already have two of them. No, this year I want something different.

Chorus

All I want for Christmas is a friend, I’m super lonely and lowly my only friends are pretend.
All I want for Christmas is a friend, Oh Santa can’t you help me find a friend.

Verse 1

I wish I had a friend instead everybody calls me weird and I feel like I have disappeared.
My Mom is my only follower and I have 0 likes with many dislikes.
Nobody ever texts me and asks me to hang out.
Instead I’m always left-out.

Chorus

All I want for Christmas is a friend, I’m super lonely and lowly my only friends are pretend.
All I want for Christmas is a friend oh Santa please help me find a friend.

Verse 2

I don’t understand why no one likes me, I talk about popular things like Advanced Quantum Mechanics and Linear Algebra.
I always sit by myself at the lunch table reading my English books, While everyone gives me weird looks.
Don’t you see Santa why I need a friend? So I made a list of what I want in one: 1. you must like math. 2 Gotta like video games. 3 um that’s it I guess.

Chorus

All I want for Christmas is a friend, I’m super lonely and lowly my only friends are pretend,
All I want for Christmas is a friend, Oh Santa can’t you help me find a friend.

Verse 3

Once I asked a girl to be my friend she not even if it’s the bitter end.
My teachers hate me too because I answer every question and correct them a lot.
They look at me like I’m pond scum and say be quiet please.
Oh Santa please please help me I’m dying of loneliness. Oh I need a friend.

Written by A. Lane, age 16

Give-Away #1 for December

Give-Away #1!

There is joy in giving! I am blessed this year to be able to give back which after the past few years of needing help; really warms my heart.

Did you catch my last post on Beginning the Homeschooling Journey?

I am giving away 2 copies of How to Homeschool with Stunning Confidence, Contagious Joy, and Amazing Focus. 

For U.S residents only! Sorry I can not afford international shipping.

Here are some of my popular posts for new homeschoolers:

Blessings of Including a New Homeschool Family

When the Homeschool Curriculum Does Not Work for Mom

Hours Spent on Homeschooling 

Thanks for stopping by and if you have any questions leave them in the comments or send me an email.

Would love to offer some ideas from my perspective of homeschooling.

Beginning the Homeschool Journey

Beginning the Homeschool Journey

I was talking with some veteran homeschool moms about the early days of our homeschooling journey. Since we began the homeschool journey before the internet and Pinterest my biggest struggle was how to actually homeschool.

Looking back, I remember talking with a friend who had been homeschooling for the past several years and begging her to just tell me what to buy to teach my kid. She was wise to not answer but did offer some vague guidance on how to make it work at my house. She knew then what I did not, that every homeschool looks different and every kid has different needs.

In my early days I was a solid oak tree. We had a schedule that we followed. Even to this day my kids stop at 3:00pm for a snack.

We had curriculum that we followed every word. It did not matter if my kids had mastered or needed more practice; we followed the pace of the curriculum because surely they knew better with how much work should be accomplished each day.

My mighty oak days did not offer much grace, my mighty oak days did not allow for flexibility. My mighty oak days fed my need to be in control of everything. My mighty oak days required much of my strength to keep things under control.

Then life brought me 4 children, 2 with health and learning issues, a sick husband, and the normal challenges of life and the time had come for me to either bend like a willow tree or break under the pressure.

Overtime I learned to bend, I let go of my expectations and I allowed grace to enter.

Beginning the homeschool journey I had no idea of how much it would change and challenge me. I thought it was all about providing my kids with an excellent education.

Friend if you are thinking about beginning the homeschool journey my best advice is to be prepared to bend and be flexible and remember you know what is best for your kids. Even right now if you have no idea how they learn after a few months you will begin a list of what does not work while looking for what does. That list has value too.

You can catch my podcast with the 7 Sisters Homeschool Podcast where we discuss juggling the many details of work and homeschool. 

For the month of December I want to enjoy the gift of giving. Which means every Wednesday I am going to be running a giveaway on my blog. First up will be two sets of How to Homeschool with Stunning Confidence, Contagious Joy and Amazing Focus.

If you are signed up for my emails you will get notifications of how to enter.

Even if you are a veteran homeschooling momma this would be a great resource to share for when the newbies come asking how do you do this homeschooling thing.

 

The Why of Attending School

The Why of Attending School

Have you ever asked your kids why they are in school? My oldest two children can clearly articulate why they are attending school. They desire to learn the knowledge they need to enter into the job market to become a meteorologist and a pastry chef.

They have known since middle school what they wanted to study in high school and college. Next month my oldest graduates college with his degree in Geography with emphasis on GIS and Atmospheric Science! (Insert grad photo)

But just two months into this school year I realized my third child felt that school was an unnecessary event for his life. He did not have a why other then it was what his siblings had done.

Around the water cooler at the office we discussed the why. For some school was a place to be able to compare yourself to others and know how smart you were or weren’t. For others it was a place to just conquer test taking. Most of us enjoyed the social hangout.

I began having discussions with my son on how subjects and situations could provide opportunities to practice skills he would need in adulthood. That he had the safety net of still living at home while practicing these skills. This was his time to try new things and explore his gifts.

I assigned him the writing assignment of What is Your Why for attending School. Now this assignment came a few days after discovering he had been skipping his online classes and was ready to quit school.

Maybe discovering this why will renew in my son his comminement to finishing school. Maybe it will give him the courage to find his gifts and stop comparing himself to his older siblings.

Why my son was wrestling with his why for finishing high school my youngest found himself questioning his why for starting high school. Yes he said he goes to school because I make him.

Discussion of Why of Attending School

Tonight at the dinner table ask your kids why do they attend school. Depending on the ages of your kids you might get some really creative answers. You might also discover that it becomes an opportunity to explain the bigger picture of attending school.

Hopefully you don’t get caught in the how adults never use Algebra after high school but maybe you can talk thought that even if they hate math that does not mean everything about high school stinks.

Maybe you can open the lines of communication on what your kids find important to learn from their perspective. I know I failed a little with hearing what my son was struggling with and what he needed to succeed in high school.

Writing Assignment for Why of Attending School

Print out this notebook page and have your kids write their answers. For younger kids it might become a great keepsake for the coming years and something to read at their graduation. For older kids it can fulfill an essay requirement for their English class.

Sign up here to receive the notebook page! 

Black Friday Specials From My Favorites

Bright Ideas Press

This is a great time to start a folderbook or get a jump start on planning the next school year! 

This four day event begins 12:01 a.m. on Black Friday, November 24, 2017 and ends at 11:59 p.m. on Cyber Monday, November 27, 2017. (All times are EST.)

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Hope Deck

ON SALE! Save $5 off each Hope Deck with 5off coupon code. These 30 cards use the power of God’s words to center you, squelch the enemy’s lies and allow His peace to reign in your life each day.

I recently learned about a product that will be filling my family’s stockings this Christmas and want to share this amazing gift with you all while the product is still rather unknown!

It’s called the Hope Deck and as the name implies it’s an amazing gift that provides encouragement and comfort through God’s word. Inside the Hope Deck are 30, 4″ x 6″ postcards. Personally I plan to use them for sending friends with a quick note in the mail (who does that anymore?!?) so I’m excited to surprise them!
The Hope Deck’s creator, Jen Gordon, has a great deal going if you buy 5 or more decks. Check it out here:
I am definitely thinking about getting more than one so I have one to give away and one to keep!

Grapevine Bible Studies

This is a family favorite bible study at my house! It always goes great with our Mystery of History lessons and provides my boys with a chance to practice their drawing. Here is how we created a timeline using Grapevine and The Mystery of History. 

7 Sisters Homeschool

I really need to borrow a kid to teach this class. I am not a book reader and using movies to learn about literary devices and techniques is my ideal situation. If you’d like to try a full YEAR of learning literature through a cinema studies approach, for a limited time (Black Friday 11/24 thru 11/29/17) you can order the bundle of 15 study guides with introductory material that helps you plan your year for half-price, just $15.00!

The Academy at Bright Ideas Press

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My boys are loving their American history class! My high school son is working hard in his Spanish class.

I am thankful for the blessing of time these classes give my schedule.

NeuYear

If you are big picture thinker and planner than this calendar is perfect for you! I already have mine hanging on the wall. I have my important birthdays added! Next I am praying about my goals and then I can break down the steps and plan them out so that 2018 will be the year I get things done! 

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My friends, THANK YOU for your continued

support of me and my happy place on the internet. 

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

Overwhelmed Mom Gift Guide

Overwhelmed Mom Gift Guide

Agnes misses her days of having time to read The Complete Works of Jane Austen while lounging on her hammock, instead she pours her heart into serving her family and friends. She often gets overwhelmed juggling the demands of her responsibilities.

Maybe you know Agnes? Maybe you want to give Agnes a gift to encourage her. If you text or talk with her try to listen to what she is struggling with or missing from her life. Those can be great ideas for gifts.

Decision fatigue can make meal planning hard. Maybe you could send Agnes a gift card to a local restaurant. If you are resourceful you could gift her with 5 freezer meals and a menu.

When Agnes is overwhelmed with paying bills even a gift card to the local grocery story is a blessing. It can even free up some funds for Agnes to buy her own kids some presents.

Agnes might never find the time for a pedicure but your offer of watching the kids could help her find a moment to be still.

Once Agnes organized an afternoon of watching about 20 kids for a few friends. There were given the gift of time and Agnes kept the kids busy making crafts for the local nursing home. Agnes loves to serve even in the chaos.

Agnes loves the Hope Deck Cards that she can send to her friends this season. Giving a set of cards can bless the giver and the receiver. She might keep a few in a picture frame for the loving reminder they provide.

Agnes has full responsibility of car and home maintenance. A gift certificate for an oil change or furnace service would help remind her of those tasks. Often she forgets these things.

Finding a handyman to help Agnes fix the few broken items around the home that just have not made it to the to do list would be a weight off her mind. She has not had time to read Home Maintenance for Dummies

Imaginably that handyman could install a hand held massage shower head for those moments when she hides in the bathroom. Perhaps just gift her with bath bombs to remind her the tub can be more than an item that needs cleaning.

If you know a tech enthusiasts hire them to offer Agnes tech support with her electronic devices. She might not even be aware her router is outdated.

She may have no idea there are apps like Upkeep to help her manage house chores. Maybe a tile for all the times she loses her phone or keys.

Often Agnes can not afford entertainment. A gift card to Redbox or the local movie theater wins points with her kids and gives her some time to be with them.

Maybe a family membership to a local establishment will give Agnes plenty of times for family fun.

Agnes often battles with loneliness at night and maybe a pillow with a picture of her husband or kids would provide something to hug at night. Maybe a heated blanket would help her relax to find sleep at night.

Perhaps a card in the mail reminding Agnes she is not alone would be the perfect thought. If you send chocolate with the card then bonus points for you.

Agnes might not have time to journal or read books but a few audible books could bless her with something to listen to in those times of driving kids around town or while cleaning.

Agnes forgets to put herself first and might need reminders. Things like Promises From God, Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World or Addicted to Busy.

If you can add some humor to her day please do! A kitchen towel with a taco proclaiming Every Now and Then I Fall Apart can help remind her to smile.

When the days feel like someone has stolen her Easy Button remind her to tune into an uplifting podcast like Snarky Homeschool Moms.

Agnes might just need a coffee date and a listening friend because it is easy to become weary in the battle of being overwhelmed.

I hope this gift guide helped you think of ways to encourage your friends in whatever situation they find themselves in because there is comfort in knowing people care about you.

Overwhelmed Mom Gift Guide and other Gift Guides can be found on iHomeschool Network.

Coffee for Breakfast for the Busy Mom

Coffee for Breakfast for the

Busy Mom

Coffee for Breakfast

In my battle of juggling things I have stumbled upon a breakfast situation that works for all my food and time issues. Coffee for breakfast that is gluten free, dairy free and has protein.

Anytime you find a solution to a problem you share just in case there is one other person in the world that could benefit.

If this is not you just laugh at how I start my day.

Coffee for Breakfast

Ingredients:

I add the coffee to my Ninja Coffee Maker and set it on cup and specialty brew.

While the coffee is brewing I add one cup of Almond milk to a small sauce pan on the stove. I put the stove on medium heat.

I add one cube of pumpkin puree to the milk. I let the pumpkin defrost and stir.

Once the pumpkin is almost melted I add 1 tablespoon of vanilla, 2 tablespoons of the unflavored protein powder. At first I also added 1 tablespoon of sugar but I am trying to cut back on sugar so adjust the sweetness as needed.

I stir until almost to a boil and then I remove from the heat and sprinkle cinnamon on top.

My coffee is done by this point and I pour the milk mixture into my cup and stir.

Now my coffee for breakfast has a little more kick to get me through the morning.

Then I find an email in my in box telling me The Power of Pumpkin in Your Diet! Score!

*I take one small can of the pumpkin puree and freeze in a ice cube tray. One can fills one ice cube tray. After 24 hours I pop out the pumpkin cubes and store in a freezer bag.

Now that coffee is made you can take 5 minutes and watch my recent Facebook live video on Why Friends are Cheaper Than Therapy.

100 Reasons To Keep Homeschooling Through Difficulties

Homeschooling Through Difficulties

Finishing up my 17th year of homeschooling and I am thankful that I continued to homeschool, even through some really difficult situations. Then it took so long to write this post that now it is the season for preparing for the next year…bring on number 18!

Often those situations seem so much larger in the moment then I remember them. Yet even today I am struggling to help my sons finish their school assignments for this week.

Sometimes I write blog posts or create memes to remind myself why I keep pushing to finish this journey of homeschooling my children.

Because even in the ugly, horrible, and difficult circumstances that life sometimes drops into my life, my children have still been able to receive the education that they need.

Homeschooling Through Difficulties: Illness

  1. Read a book like Lost and Found
  2. Practice receiving help
  3. Follow these 12 Practice Tips for Homeschooling Through a Short Term Crisis 
  4. Take a moment and examine your expectations.
  5. Don’t beat yourself up if you normally serve a hot meal in the morning and breakfast has become cold cereal for 2 weeks.
  6. Sometimes the lesson for your kids is them learning how to run the house and not completing another math lesson.
  7. Buy paper products and forget about doing the dishes.
  8. Compassion, perseverance, and humility are often best learned in a practical situation.
  9. 10 Tips for Homeschooling with a Chronic Illness because sometimes the illness is chronic.
  10. Homeschooling Through a Chronic Illness states that you need to be willing to accept a new normal.

Homeschooling Through Difficulties: Grief

  1. Grief and Joy combined, it is okay to laugh and cry during the same moment.
  2. Homeschooling Through Grief, remember to take frequent breaks.
  3. How the Challenge of Love is Grief, copy down a scripture verse and tape it to the bathroom mirror.
  4. Sometimes choosing to do things in small amounts helps build momentum and even in your grief it is ok to smile, How Homeschooling Actually Saved Me From Depression.
  5. Homeschooling Through Grief can be done, don’t expect a cookie cutter appoach to work.

Homeschooling Through Difficulties: Tough Times

  1. How to Homeschool Through Tough Times, remember to be flexible.
  2. 4 Lessons I’ve learned Homeschooling Through Hard Times, kids still learn even despite the difficult moment.
  3. Listen to others who have experienced similar situations, Homeschooling Through Hard Times.
  4. Homeschooling When the Schedule is Disrupted, flexibility is a skill to practice.
  5. Homeschooling Through Trying Times, remember to be gentle with yourself.
  6. Homeschooling When Life Gets Hard, family comes first.
  7. 5 Reasons Why We Continued to Homeschool, you get to set the pace
  8. 8 Tips to Help Your Homeschool Thrive Through Hard Times, remember to relax.
  9. Does Your Homeschool Need a Grace Year? yes, always add more grace.
  10. Keep things simple when Homeschooling Through a Crisis 

Homeschooling Through Difficulties: Being Overwhelmed

  1. Embracing Overwhelm
  2. Battling the fear of failing 
  3. Take a break from the books and plan some fun.
  4. Maybe you just need to take a Homeschool Sabbatical.
  5. Don’t forget to adjust the homeschool plans to better serve your kids.
  6. Teach Science in the summer instead of squeezing it into an already busy school year.
  7. Create Margin
  8. Take a Moment to say a Homeschool Prayer
  9. Remember that God does provide and when He does, take a photo of the provision.
  10. Accepting Limits, Balancing Homeschool, and Work

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Lesson Plan For Homeschool Mom Sick Day

Homeschool Mom Sick Day

Even if you are a veteran homeschooler or a newbie, having a plan for those days when you are too ill to accomplish the lesson plans will serve you well in those hours of needing rest.

First start a Pinterest board of ideas, or a note in Evernote, or a word doc on ideas and links. This way you can make decisions now while your head is not exhausted from being sick.

The Goal is Have a Plan for Homeschool Mom Sick Day!

Homeschool Mom Sick Day Online Ideas

  • iHN has a monthly thread of Famous Birthday Lessons and Unit Studies. Print out a few copies of this notebook page, Famous Birthday PDF, and have your students select a famous person to learn more about.
  • Maybe just giving them time on their iPad on PBS to play games will be all it takes for some time for a nap.
  • Khan Academy is a favorite at my house for learning how to do things. Let your kids have fun with Hour of Code.

Homeschool Mom Sick Day Project Ideas

  • Have your kids follow directions to Build Your Own Board Game. My kids really enjoy making board games. They still talk about the Health Matters DIY Science Board Game they created. (PS order supplies early if you want to provide some extra direction.)
  • If you get really desperate for an activity and have a bar of ivory soap give your kids the link to this post on Ivory Soap Experiment.
  • Have them Design Their Own Colony. They might enjoy establishing their own rules.
  • Even giving your kids all the sheets and blankets in the house to build forts should buy you a few moments of rest. My boys enjoyed building a Hooverville Fort in their bedroom one afternoon. The idea came from The Great Depression Hands-on Activities.
  • Sometimes just having a box of tape, paper, string, and random supplies can allow kids an opportunity to create a new invention. Maybe even challenge them to build something that will keep an egg from breaking when dropped from different heights.

Homeschool Mom Sick Day Movie and Book Ideas

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Saving Money on Groceries Starts in the Kitchen

The great thing about raising lifelong learners is the chance to role rodel lifelong learning! Here is a copy of a 5 minute speech I had to give for a class I took on becoming a better communicator. I also get to role model doing hard things, public speaking still makes my stomach go into knots.

Saving money on groceries starts in the kitchen!

With the average family of 4 spending $12,000 a year on groceries this becomes a popular area to try and cut spending. The interesting thing about that amount of money, around $1500 goes toward wasted food.

That’s right money spent on food that is never eaten or enjoyed. The food ends up in the trashcan.

We do not even have to leave our house to save money on groceries. No need to cut coupons or read about the psychology of shopping. Just take an honest look at the amount of food you throw away each week.

I believe every mom can save money on groceries by conquering food waste.

I have 3 concepts that can help conquer food waste:

  • Serving
  • Selecting
  • Supervising

The first concept that can help conquer food waste is serving sizes.

For adults having an understanding for portion sizes. Spend a week reading the labels and get an understanding for portion sizes.

For parents of small children serve them just 3 bites of dinner. Children under the age of 5 have this amazing ability to only eat 3 bites of a meal one day and then eat an entire adult serving the next day.

When my children were young I often only served half of a sandwich at lunchtime or 3 bites of a meal at dinnertime.

I wanted my children to learn to ask for more when they were still hungry rather then learn it was ok to throw food away.

The second concept that can help conquer food waste is selecting recipes that contain similar ingredients. Keep your recipes simple.

I love looking on Pinterest for new recipes. But it can break the budget trying a recipe with a lot of ingredients. For example I avoid recipes that use 1 tablespoon of tomato paste because unless you have a plan to use the rest of the can of paste you will find yourself 2 weeks later throwing the tomato paste in the trashcan.

The great thing about cooking is you can have a little less or a little extra of an ingredient and the recipe will still turn out fine.

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