A year ago began a year of failing…first my husband needed shoulder surgery…which turned into 4 months of being out of work. Which is why I cancelled Christmas last year.…failing finances.
A month after shoulder surgery…we discovered his O2 levels were in the 60s at night. Yes, COPD was progressing…yes he started oxygen therapy at night…failing health.
A few weeks later I discovered out septic tank tank was failing…hopefully I could get it replaced before it collapsed completely…failing septic.
Yes I managed to get the septic replaced and had hopes of recovering from the whirlwind. But I was only just beginning the walk through the desert.
A lump formed on my husband’s hand…the MRI wasn’t good…again he was going to be out of work…we were going to lose all benefits…more failing health and finances.
Then the roof needed replaced…or else major repairs would be needed to fix water damage…failing roof.
Then three hours after my dear friend and her husband helped me order supplies to repair my roof…a tragic phone call came…he had been killed in an accident. Ugly crying…it bonds you to your friends…grief became part of everyday life.
While things were failing…not once did God fail me.
I looked back on the past year…a year that forever changed me…I questioned if I could still homeschool. I learned the value of giving and receiving help…most importantly…I witnessed God bring the strength needed at just the right moment.
While my gifts are for organizing and thinking outside of the box for teaching my children…I never wanted this blog to just show the happy organized homeschool life.
Because if you have been homeschooling for at least a few weeks then you know there are days…weeks…and sadly even months that the battle is real. That the battle to be all things a mom needs to be and homeschool…can be overwhelming.
Three things I have learned walking through the mountain top and valleys of this past year:
- You can’t fix hard…showing up means not offering a fix…or feeling like you need the right words to say…simply just show up….offer love and be a reminder that one is never alone.
- How are you? I no longer ask this…I now say… It is good to see you. I can’t tell you how hard it was to answer that question going through this past year…how much did I want to share…how real did I want to be…could I just nod when I felt so broken inside. For my dear friend watching her try to answer the question…when her heart just wanted to cry out…I lost the love my life…how am I supposed to be doing.
- Community carries you when your strength runs out. My dear co-worker didn’t let me give up on getting my roof replaced…friends brought food…sent cards…reminded me of God’s grace.
As I look forward to serving and loving my family…I have discovered my secret weapon…rest.
Rest is defined…cease work or movement in order to relax, refresh oneself, or recover strength.
When I read Ann Voskemp’s tweet this week…my heart was reminded of the importance of resting. I created a meme of her tweet to hang at home and at the office.
While FB reminded me that a year ago was surgery…and I was reflecting back…I received an email from a reader…who was contacting me to offer encouragement…mainly reminding me to take care of me…and you know what? I have a little extra bounce in my step because I now have bras that hold the girls in the right place…go ahead laugh…it is the small things in life.
As I sang the chorus from a song in church this morning…So I will stand in trust…I will stand in faith…I will not be shaken.
If you are walking in the valley…I suggest reading my friend’s post On Valleys and Avoiding the Pit.
I always love to read my friend who keeps things real… Fear Meets Faith.
Now back to my regularly scheduled homeschooling posts.