I am joining a group of bloggers who are focusing on Being Kind Counts. What a great chance to focus on showing kindness to others!
I decided it would be fun to brain storm creative ideas on showing kindness to our local community. I know in my area the local christian radio station encourages kindness with their Drive Thru Connection on the first Friday of every month. I knew the kids and I would have great fun with random acts of kindness but then I was hit hard with a different thought.
It would be more of a challenge to show kindness to others by showing kindness to the sandpaper people in my life. Are you familiar with sandpaper people? I remember years ago my friend, Kathy, discussing sandpaper people as those who just rub you the wrong way. Maybe it is a person who complains all the time, or a person who always one ups your activities, or a person who is always right. Maybe it is a person in your family. I am sure someone just popped into your mind. Tell me I am not alone in having sandpaper people in my life.
I am guilty of avoiding most sandpaper people, I justify my actions by claiming I am to busy to handle the tension or I am too tired to say something nice. Really I start believing the lie that there are people I am just incompatible with and it’s ok to not interact with them.
For this challenge I am going to be purposeful about showing kindness to the sandpaper people in my life.
Showing Kindness to Others: Sandpaper People
- Stop avoiding them. I know obvious first step, but making sure paths cross can be the hardest choice to make.
- Now take a moment and see them with different eyes. Do not focus on the ugly behaviors or past interactions. Really spend 10 minutes finding at least one good quality. Even if all you can think of is “It’s good to see you” because you are glad to see them. Remember step one.
- Now brainstorm an idea on how to be kind to them. Maybe sending an encouraging email, or taking time for a face to face conversation. How about asking them how you can serve them or what you can do to help them. Sometimes gifts can help a person not to feel forgotten in this world.
- Take time to listen to their story. We all have a story to share. Listening to them might help to see them in a new light.
- Now put it on your calendar to cement the idea that you are going to show kindness to your sandpaper person.
Who knows maybe I am that sandpaper person but that would be another blog post to write.