Ok I am just going to assume if you have more then 1 child you have experienced sibling rivalry in your house. The culprits in my house are my 7 yr. and 11 yr. old sons. They share a room, they share toys and they share their parents.
In my quest to bring peace to my house, I have found one idea that helps bring unity. Now we have memorized scripture, prayed about heart changes and encouraged kind gestures, but sometimes it’s hard to act lovingly when you have back-to-back confrontations.
When I notice the constant bickering and fighting is reaching a peak of out of control, I look for an activity for just the two of them; an activity where they get to feel special for going and can have a chance to bind their hearts over a pleasant experience. Sometimes it is simple like sneaking away for ice cream, or a little more involved like a special outing.
Last week I took them to the rodeo, just the two of them. They laughed at each other riding the mechanical bull. When we got home they were happy to report to the family their adventure. Then when the bickering started, I could remind them how much fun they can have with their brother.
Part of my intentional parenting includes helping the children build better relationships with each other.